Insides .

When you squeeze an orange, you'll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what's inside. The same logic applies to you: when someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or anxiety, that is what's inside. 
If love and joy are what you want to give and receive, change your life by changing what's inside.
~Dr. Wayne Dyer